Lately, I have written the book Live Differently! Life Coaching with Mindfulness and Positive Psychology which will be available on the book market from June 2023. It takes a deeper look at the great challenges of human life and offers positive and mindful solutions to live life in a more fulfilling way. One chapter centres around human attachment and the cultivation of mindful relationships which are the most important protective factor in human life.
Perhaps you too have noticed that societal change has also impacted on the way we date and lead relationships. Just like changing jobs when better opportunities arise or we get bored we tend to change friendships and life partners. Dating apps seduce us to fall in love with new beginnings and overwhelm us with tousands of new profiles.
This constant change modus has been internalised to such a degree that when dating such individuals mindlessly swipe profiles to one side or the other rather than getting to know the person behind the profile. If they do meet, the excitement of the first flirt quickly evaporises when the first signs of habituation show. This is when they continue to search for the next exciting sensation and fall in love with beginnings without ever experiencing mature and deep love which only grows out of mindfully spent quality time together.
This kind of dating behaviour is not only frustrating. It is also ineffective and can lead to a kind of dating addiction. The ego needs new LIKES and new introductions to feel worthy. Rejection and ghosting are harmful to the addict's sense of self-esteem and even positive resonance does not nourish satisfactorily as the addict depends on constant, never-ending confirmation. This way, people do not learn or unlearn staying with one partner and getting to know the other person on a more profound level by managing challenge together.
At Positive Partners you have the option to profit from our after-care-services in order to get professionally accompanied in the transitional phase between dating, the excitement of falling in love and the challenges of everyday life. That way, you learn how to empower one another and cultivate a deeper and mature kind of life-long love.
Live Differently!
Life Coaching with Mindfulness and Positive Psychology
by Indrani Alina Wilms & Sven Sohr