Why search in a goldfish bowl if the seven seas' richness of choice awaits you?
Have you ever asked yourself why you have repeatedly ended up with the same kind of goldfish, guppy or piranha? Then it is high time to reflect on your past search patterns and on whether you are acually fishing in the right ocean. Most personalities who I have accompanied as their single coach had previously repeated the same maladaptive patterns, often without even being aware of this unconscious automatism. Some have tried to pull the same type of partner ashore using the same type of methods. Others have been waiting passively in order to avoid the risk of rejection. However, passivity led to being approached by non-matching persons who they would never have chosen pro-actively.
Even in the glamorous world of many celebrities clear patterns become apparent which did not lead to long-term happiness. One could for example posit that Boris Becker left the typical German "aquarium culture" by fishing in nearby oceans but eventually always ending up with similar types, followed by break-ups and expensive divorces.
For Heidi Klum the pattern paradoxically seems to be the constant and radical change of partner type. Her partners were much older or much younger than her, German or international, boyish or very masculine. When one relationship shattered she next looked for a diametrically different partner than the previous.
Lifetime is precious. That is why it might be an eye-opener to understand why you have followed certain patterns and automatisms in dating and choosing a partner. Only after becoming aware of your patterns will you be able to decide which aspects you wish to adhere to and which factors you would like to change by the use of professional support, so you do no longer stand in your own way of finding fulfilling love.
Ensure that you also analyse the geographical radius of your past activities. Was your search so far only limited to regional dating apps, Tinder or did you only visit local clubs or date friends of your friends, then it is not surprising if you always find the same kind of fish at the end of your fishing-rod.
With Positive Partners - depending on your preferences - the entire world with its diversity of personalities and cultures can become your positive fishing area. Instead of hurtful wounds caused by getting hooked up in mismatching partnerships, Positive Partners will guide you how to date mindfully and happily. Our ambassadors, scouts and agency partners will fish on your behalf in the Seven Seas. The prescreening by your psychological matchmaker will ensure that you will dedicate your precious time exclusively to the best fitting fish while all others have already been returned to the sea.
Every rationally deciding scientist, business personality or legal expert will agree that the likelihood of finding your positive match will correlate positively with the number of searches and the radius of your search. Therefore, take a safe dive out of your limited goldfish bowl. As Fanny Chenal wisely declared in the mindfully-based Film A good year „Pardonne à mes lèvres, elles trouvent de plaisir dans les endroits les plus inattendu!“ – "Excuse my lipps, they find pleasure at the most unexpected places!"