7 Principles

First-Hand Insights From The World of International Matchmaking

Deeply anchored in Positive Partners© mission is the primary objective to identify the negatives associated with todays matchmaking industry in order to overcome and turn them into empowering positives.

This guiding principle is the result of a thorough market research and the intensive, one-year experience of shadowing the management of a leading international matchmaking consultancy for which I was supposed to lead the German-speaking market, the D-A-CH region. Instead of becoming a vehicle of the existing establishment I founded my very own agency Positive Partners@ in order to heal the observed handicaps. Previous experience enabled me to clearly pinpoint seven principles by which Positive Partners@ shall differ from presently established matchmaking agencies.

If you would like to learn more about Positive Partners core principles, click at the bottom of the following texts which outlines the 7 principles. You can read in detail about the most frequent challenges within the matchmaking industry and about how Positive Partners@ overcomes them positively.

1. Principle of expertise & exclusivity

As an international private client of a psychological consultancy like Positive Partners© you are eligible for being accompanied professionally throughout your entire matchmaking journey by the psychological expert who represents the company as its figurehead.

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2. Principle of discretion & anonymity

Most exceptional personalities who decide to consult an elite matchmaking service are publicly reknown or serve in professional functions which make them prone to blackmail. Such personalities avoid online sites which would make them vulnerable and expose them publicly. By choosing a highly professional offline matchmaking consultancy they opt for confidence and anonymity.

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3. Principle of uniqueness

The nature of Positive Partners© psychological matchmaking is the individualised search for THE ONE special lifetime partner. It is this mission to which I want to dedicate my precious time and my professional competency. As your exclusive matchmaker I will search for this unique person on your behalf.

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4. Principle of global ambassador network

Our global network of external agencies, mindfully-chosen ambassadors and scouts permits Positive Partners© to extend our search radius depending on your personal preferences. The search can be regional, extended to countries where specific languages are spoken or can be adapted to transcontinental searches by focussing on countries and cultures of your choice. Due to a strategically thought-through system people around the globe might be acitvated to look for your perfect match without knowing your identity!

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5. Principle of exclusive membership

In the first instance, your search criteria will be compared with our hand-picked exclusive database of impressive singles who have qualified via castings or been recommended by our embassadors or scouts. Following the motto "class instead of mass" passive clients can only qualify for Positive Partners© database via our internal casting. Therefore, we know every member personally and can ensure that up to date photographs and videos are produced which satisfy our standards in order to present their profiles adequately to our private clients. Matching always follows the principle of best fit.

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6. Principle of professional intimacy

Instead of being "processed" by mechanical algorithms, at Positive Partners© you will be accompanied in a professional and client-centred way throughout your entire matchmaking-journey. If desired, Positive Partners© will remain the coach by your side during the first steps of your new realationship. Professional intimacy permits in depth communication, e.g. about search criteria which go far beyond criteria which are usually ticked off by AI-based systems or non-psychological dating services. Such additional criteria may include sexual preferences or matching potential candidates with further family members such as parents or already existing children.

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7. Priciple of positive Karma

Positive Partners© is committed to nurturing positive cycles by matching personalities who also score high on beauty of character. By promoting humanitarian projects and animal welfare we contribute to positive karma outside of the privileged community.

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Insights from the matchmaking industry

With ordinary agencies there is often no guarantee which matchmaker will eventually be allocated to you. Profession, expertise and the level of training within a pool of matchmakers may differ considerably. Even if you opt for the most expensive service it might be the head of the agency who sometimes gets in touch with you - while behind the scenes - the matchmaking process might be delegated to other helpers who have time to spare.

However, profiting from the best expertise is essential for successful matchmaking. A lay matchmaker may suffice to find somebody who will meet a few superficial exernal criteria. If however, you are looking for a lifetime partner, you consider marriage or having children together, it is absolutely crucial to decide mindfully because your entire life is at stake. Mindful decisions require prior reflection of privious relationship patters and criteria of attraction. Eventually, clients should profit from expert pre-date coaching in order to present themselves authentically and positively so that the spark of the moment will ignite mutually when dating.

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If you embark on a matchmaking journey with Positive Partners© as your matchmaking companion, I will be your one and only matchmaker, thereby guaranteeing that you will fully profit from the Oxford competency. Your destiny will not be delegated internally to other matchmakers.

As you would probably consult a highly skilled cardiologist to perform a heart surgery, you can trust me with your emotional heart affairs. They will be in experienced psychological expert hands. That is important because every future decision in favour or against a partner option will influence the further course of your life, including feelings, economic factors and family constellations.

Insights from the matchmaking industry

You cannot control who and how many people will gain insights into your profile. Matchmakers and assistants on internships might chat about you in internal whats app groups or secretly listen on mute ito confidential conversations with your matchmaker whithout you even knowing. Even agencies which follow a strict policy of confidentiality enable their teams to have access to your profile. These team members may sooner or later leave the agency or might mistakenly leave their mobile phone lying around with your offline profile.

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As a chartered counselling psychologist, I am more aware and bound to confidentiality than nonpsychologists or psychologists without a therapeutic qualification. Even this hightened awareness cannot guarntee 100% protection as databases can be hacked and client data might be accessed. As a private client with Positive Partners© all personal information will be stored in my professional memory alone in order to ensure maximum anonymity. That is only possible because your search is exclusive for ONE CLIENT at a time instead of several searches by several matchmakers who search simultaneously for several clients.

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Agencies often dedicate many resources to dealing with administration, personnel and complicatedly designed internet sites using automatically generated templates to respond to clients in a uniform way. That leaves them with fewer resources to dedicate to the essentials of matchmaking.

Moreover, the business decisions they make need to ensure that their overhead of fixed costs will be covered. That does by no means coincide with your best interest, e.g. when you will be allocated to a matchmaker who has the most vacancies.

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If you embark on a matchmaking journey with Positive Partners© you will never receive a template-generated email. Each contact is personal and as unique as you are! This website suffices to communicate all essentials. The specifics will be negotiated when we meet personally. That enables me to dedicate my time fully to the perhaps most important search of your life.

Our matchmaking consultancy was founded out of passion and the vocation to facilitate positive relationships through mindful matchmaking. To ensure that this mission can be accomplished in the best way possible, fixed costs are kept to a minimum so that all decisions can be made in your best interest.

Insights from the matchmaking industry

Superficial online searches based on simple criteria might deliver some regional matches. The more elaborate and specific the search however, the smaller the output when searching within narrow margins. The ocean in which portals or matchmakers are "fishing" for you becomes smaller and smaller, especially if cultural and linguistic criteria come into play and active primary clients are only matched with other active primary clients. If your best match happens to live in London, South America or India, for example, conventional searches will - statistically speaking - never build a bridge to link you to one another.

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At times of digital and economic globalisation Positive Partners© too, banks on global networking in order to optimise the search for your partner. As an international private client you will decide together with your matchmaker during the first planning session which criteria will guide the search. This includes your choice of geographical parameters. In the countries chosen by you the network of Positive Partners© will be activated in order to search for that someone who meets your desired profile. Our global network is continuously growing and is being uptdated constantly, so that more and more multipliers are proactively searching without knowing who they are searching for.

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My active research in the matchmaking industry revealed that conventional agencies often administer membership files. Often, they admit everybody in order to generate monthly membership fees. Others inflate their membership figures by offering fee-free entry into their files. This frequently leads to unupdated files with profiles who have meanwhile married, died, relocated or who have remained on the files for years because they are difficult to match.

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Positive Partners© keeps and constantly updates an exclusive file of passive members which is consulted in the first instance when looking for a match for one of our private clients before acitivating the global network. In order to ensure professionalism and sincerity, Positive Partners© gets to know each passive member personally via a standardised casting. Members will only be accepted and added to our internal file if they are genuinely looking for a long-term relationship. A once in a lifetime-fee is charged to passive members. The fee is also used to produce high quality photos and videos for presentation purposes when introducing them to our private clients. Additionally, payment of a single fee demonstrates that members are serious about willing to bond. There is no financial incentive to bind members by charging regular fees to maintain their membership.

Insights from the matchmaking industry

Todays matchmaking is often reduced to mechanical, purely result-oriented business. Paradoxically, one of the most human life transitions lacks the human factor. Consequently, the number of people harmed by unsuccessful or fake dating and disappointing or terminated relationships rises drastically. Only very few of them are able to reflect on maladaptive patterns of partner choice and behaviour in times of crisis, heal the wounds of past dating attempts and cope with the challenges of future datings.

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If you embark on a matchmaking journey with Positive Partners© your expert psychological companion will be by your side whenever you wish. Some private clients wish to have daily or weekly contact with their psychological sparring partner, others prefer to limit coaching to concrete occasions, e.g. pre-date preparation or after-date debriefing. The customised service permits to tailor the intensity of the client-matchmaker contact to the needs and wishes of the client.

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Recently, matchmaking has mutated more and more to a marketplace where wealthy academics and financial achievers are looking for partners as an accessory to their affluent lifestyle and gold diggers are looking for sugar-daddies or sugar-mommies. Such arrangements do neither lead to lasting happiness nor can everybody afford them.

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The membership option offered by Positive Partners© provides those who also qualify by virtue of a beautiful character with a potential chance to find love and happiness without having to invest the same as an international private client of Positive Partners© . Their "lottery ticket" is the chance of being found for one of Positive Partners© private clients. The investment a private client is willing to pay does not automatically guarantee that Positive Partners©will take on a matchmaking mission. Human and interpersonal factors will be decisive, too.

The fact that you can consider consulting a service like this and that I had the option to to qualify in offering it renders us to privileged inhabitants of this beautiful planet. As a small contribution of re-balance I financially support a school for children from the surrounding slums of Calcutta which my family has founded together with the local Rotary Club. It helps the poorest and underprivileged children to profit from education and have a better start into a more prosperous life. Positive Partners© will donate support to this project as well as to animal welfare as animals are the most loving partner substitutes for us humans. By consulting our services in the hope to find love and happiness you indirectly help other people and creatures to have a chance to find luck and thereby contribute to positive karma.